What’s Saving My Life Right Now

Linking up with Anne over at Modern Mrs. Darcy today (and inspired by Marisa!) to share some things that are keeping me sane through the winter doldrums.

Winter sunsets. The nights may be long, but Oklahoma has had some seriously beautiful sunsets lately. Do yourself a favor and feast your eyes on the #myoklahoma tag over on Instagram.

French Press Coffee. I’m not much of a coffee snob, but there’s something so satisfying about a french press that I’ve been wanting it all the day.

Houseplants. I’m more of a brown thumb, but surrounding myself with green calms my soul. I recently got a new Fiddle Leaf Fig Tree (after accidentally overwatering and killing my last Fiddle Leaf Fig bush), and I’ve got nothing by heart eyes for it. I’ve also been trying to revive some succulents that I somehow managed to kill, and I’ve seen new growth recently!

Visits to the library. I love my Kindle, but I have recently renewed my love affair with physical books, and that can definitely be attributed to spending more time at our local public library. I managed to read 4 books in January, and I think that’s entirely due to reading an actual book instead of an e-reader. Also, the library in my hometown smells exactly like it did 15 years ago, and the nostalgia of a simpler time in my life is oddly comforting.

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Cooking. I’ve been working my way through my Grandma’s recipe box, and the good eats combined with sweet memories are the definition of soul food.

My new haircut. Last week, I decided it was time for change and I cut off several inches of hair. I should have done it sooner. I now have a cute little asymmetrical bob, and my shower time has decreased dramatically. It also takes virtually no time to style in comparison to my long locks. No regrets here.

What about you? What’s keeping you together during these short days and long, cold nights?

It’s time for change


time for change

I have a hair appointment this afternoon. Other than a quick trim a few months ago, I haven’t had a real haircut since last February. I’ve been letting my hair grow for the past couple of years since my son was born, and it’s now the longest it’s ever been in my life.

I have enjoyed letting my hair grow. I’d had some serious hair envy for long locks for a while, so I’m proud of myself for letting it get this long. If you didn’t know, I chopped all my hair off into a pixie cut a few years ago. It was liberating and fulfilling, but a pixie was too much maintenance for me at the time so I resolved to let it grow because that was easier.

However, the long hair has overstayed it’s welcome. I have THICK hair, and it takes 2+ shampoos to get it clean every time I shower. I shed like crazy and the hair gets everywhere. It gets caught in the straps of my tote bag when I carry it. If I don’t pull it up at night, it gets caught while I sleep. It takes approximately 5.72 hours to style and that’s not including blowdrying, because I don’t even mess with that. Basically, I’m over it.

So, back to my hair appointment today. I’m not sure what I’m going to do with it, yet, but here are some ideas I’ve been filing away on my hair Pinterest board:

I’m thinking of some blend of an asymmetrical bob and a pixie. We’ll see what my stylist thinks, and if I follow through with it! For reference, here’s a photo I took a couple of days ago:

I’ve had people tell me that I have great hair and I shouldn’t cut it, but you know what? I’ve never had a sentimental attachment to hair. It grows back, y’all. Nothing’s permanent, and my hair grows super fast. Plus, life’s too short to avoid an adventure – even if it’s just trying out a new hairstyle. Stay tuned next week for after pics!


A Harvest of Righteousness

A Harvest of Righteousness

The autumn sun cast a warm glow across the living room floor, where I sat in the midst of a group of 10 strangers. We were visiting a small group from a new church for the first time, and we were going around the room, taking turns reading as we worked through the book of James. As my turn approached, I felt apprehensive. I am a natural introvert, and though I’m a good reader, the thought of fumbling words in front of a room of people I’d just met had me on edge. Still, I bucked up and began to read.

My portion was from James 3, the wisdom that comes from above. I read over the familiar words about jealousy and selfish ambition, not giving much thought as I worked my way through carefully (so as not to embarrass myself). Then I came to the last verse, a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace (James 3:18 ESV).

Peace. What did I know of peace? Here I was in a group of strangers. Again. You see, we have recently moved to a new town – our 7th move in my husband and I’s five years of marriage. Seven moves – some across town, some cross country. Add to that mix two babies. From the moment we said “I do,” it’s felt like a whirlwind of change, so peace sometimes fell between the cracks of chaos and mayhem.

I don’t know about you, but seasons of sudden change bring out the worst in this Type-A, planner of a gal. I get anxious, overbearing, irritable. Yet, the words of that verse stuck with me the rest of that day. And the next day. And the one after that. They would emerge at random moments, and I would roll them over in my mind. Since it was the beginning of fall, messages of harvest were everywhere. I was at my local crafts store, browsing the fall home décor, when it struck me: A harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

God met me right there in the 40% off section to open my eyes to an area of sin in my life. I had not been making peace with the recent changes. Though my mind trusts in God’s sovereignty, including this move, my heart was still striving against it. Why? I think James explains it: worldliness. My attachment to my world was sowing discord in my heart. You see, James says that as we seek friendship with this world, we move further and further away from sowing peace with God. In fact, loving the world makes us enemies of God himself. This isn’t a harvest of righteousness – it’s spiritual drought.

We all do this – we all chase stuff. We all choose between the love of God and love of the world, and left on our own, we would choose the world every time. But God gives more grace. He seeks us, woos us, and draws near to us as we come to him humbly – cleansing us and purifying our hearts through the gift of repentance. So that, a harvest of righteousness is sown in in our lives by God himself, who in his grace makes peace with us through his Son, Jesus Christ.

So what season are you in right now? Are you reaping a harvest of righteousness, or are you thirsting in a spiritual drought? Are you sowing peace, or is discord uprooting your heart?