define | five minute friday


Five Minute Friday: a community of writers who free write for five minutes on a one-word prompt. No editing, no over-thinking, no analyzing grammar and style. Just writing. Today’s word: define.

Setting my timer and starting in 3…2…1…NOW.

This isn’t very profound, but the first thing I think of when I hear the word “define” is the relationship hurdle known as the DTR: define the relationship. During my college years, the DTR was a significant milestone in any guy-girl interaction. If you found yourself spending time with one guy exclusively, and if feelings started to get involved, and if the time you spent together definitely bordered on boyfriend-girlfriend territory, then it was time to DTR: define the relationship.

Now that I’m married with children, and no longer on the dating scene, the DTR is a less a part of my life. But, I think that it’s a relationship practice that might be healthy in other areas. Such as, food. Work. Friendships. Habits. It might be time for me to have a DTR session with some of the ways I spend my time. I did this earlier this year when I took an extended hiatus from Facebook. Maybe I need to define the relationship with other daily habits that may not be healthy or in my best interest.

Ultimate, to define the relationship is to take a critical look at something that’s becoming a bigger part of your life and to determine where it’s going, and whether that destination is a good place. I can think of several things in my life that need to have a good, ol’ fashioned DTR.

Time’s up. 

What about you? Have you ever had a DTR talk? Is there something, or someone, in your life you might need to define the relationship with?

links + loves: spring edition

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Happy Friday, friends. If you’re an Okie like me, I hope you’re enjoying the warmer weather after that cold snap we just had. Is it spring where you are? Oklahoma can’t decide what season we’re in.

I wanted to share with you all some things I’m loving right now. First is the Bite Multistick in the shade Papaya. I got a few samples of the Bite multistick in my latest Sephora order, and this color has given me all the heart eyes.   This lip color is a beautiful matte wear that’s the perfect color for spring. It’s a little dry for my preference, but I just swipe a thin layer of balm over it and it’s perfect. It’s been my go-to lip color recently. Also, it can serve as cheek color, too! Win/win.

Next is the L’Oreal Voluminous False Fiber Lash Mascara. I’ve been using Smashbox’s X-Rated mascara for a while, but I was really unhappy with it. I was in Walgreens the other day and they had a buy two, get one free on beauty products deal going, so I picked up this mascara. It’s great! I’ve been really pleased with how it wears, the boost it gives to my eyes, and the overall quality for a drugstore product. Can’t beat the price, either.

For this third item, let me just tell you that this is what 30 is like: buying shoes solely for their orthopedic value (pun intended). I saw these Dr. Scholl’s sneakers praised over on The Small Things Blog and had to give them a try. They are comfortable and so cute, too! These shoes are a good casual choice to wear with jeans or leggings throughout the spring.

Finally, I have been wearing these Old Navy High Rise Rockstar Jeans in Olive almost exclusively over the past two weeks. They are so versatile and SO comfortable. Also, the high rise fit hides my mom fluff really well. You can usually find them on sale, which makes them a great value for the price.

What are you all loving right now? Share your links and loves in the comments!

Listen To Your Mother

A couple of weeks ago, my blogger friend/college classmate/Twitter pal Marisa retweeted a call for submissions for the OKC casting of the Listen To Your Mother Show. Her tweet piqued my interest so I clicked on the link to find out about what this show was all about as I had never heard of it. Basically, it’s a community-sponsored event where real women tell their authentic stories of motherhood – in all its “complexity, diversity and humor,” as their website says.

Since I have challenged myself to step outside of my comfort zone with writing this year, I thought, why not submit something? And so I did, not expecting much to come of it but rather in an earnest pursuit of growth in my craft.

Welp. I got notified to audition. And lest you think I’ve been holding back on you on some kind of theatrical talent, let me clarify: the audition involved simply reading my piece. So, I drove the 2+ hours down to OKC on a beautiful, sunny Saturday morning a few weeks ago to read through my 5-minute work on motherhood.

I think you can probably see where this is going. I got cast in the show!

Listen to your mother

I’m thrilled, delighted and overwhelmed to be a part of it. I’ve watched some of the videos from the past years’ shows, and the ladies with whom I’ll be sharing a stage are skillful writers and compelling storytellers.

You can find out all about the show and meet the rest of the cast over on the show’s website:

Also, if you’re local to Oklahoma, won’t you consider joining us on April 30th for this unique event that gives a voice to motherhood? Tickets are available here:

I’m anxious with excitement to hear my fellow cast members’ motherhood stories and to share my own as well. Come be a part of it and join us in OKC in April for the Listen To Your Mother Show!

Vintage Book Planter

Vintage Book Planter

A couple weeks ago, I scored some vintage books for cheap at an estate sale. I like to use books throughout our house to add depth and dimension to our decor, and also just because I love books. A couple of the books I found at the estate sale were on gardening. Since I had seen book planters on some design boards on Pinterest and because I love plants, I immediately knew I wanted to use the gardening books to make a vintage book planter.

Creating a vintage book planter is relatively simple. There aren’t many tools you’ll need, but it takes some time to cut out the hole in the book for your plants. So, be prepared for that. If you’re results-oriented like me, you might grow frustrated in the process of cutting out the hole. But it’s worth it, so persevere through it.

Here’s what you’ll need to create your own vintage book planter:

  • a vintage book that’s pretty thick. You’ll need a good 1.5″-2″ for your planter.
  • an exacto knife
  • a long ruler
  • glue or spray adhesive
  • plastic wrap or parchment paper
  • soil
  • 2-3 succulents
  • moss/rocks/beads for decoration

The first step to creating your vintage book planter is to spread glue or spray adhesive along the outer edge of the pages of the book. This holds them securely in place while you cut out your hole. You’ll have to separate the pages later as you remove the pages you’ve cut out, but the glue is a necessary step to hold the pages together as you cut.

After the adhesive dries, measure out the size of your hole with your ruler. I chose a 4″x4″ square. Then, using your exacto knife, start cutting out the hole for your vintage planter. This is the part that takes some time. Patiently (or impatiently, like me) work your way through the cover and pages until you have a hole that is at least 1.5″ deep. If you want to add a few rocks to the bottom of your planter for drainage, you’ll need your hole to be closer to 2″. Also, don’t worry about if your hole is ugly. It won’t be seen. Just take a look at mine:

Once you’ve got your hole cut out, line it with plastic wrap or parchment paper. Then, arrange your succulents to your liking and fill in around them with soil. You can leave the soil exposed, or cover it with moss or stones or beads. I didn’t have any moss on hand when I initially finished my vintage book planter, so I used beads, but I went back and added moss later.

And that’s all there is to it! What do you think of the vintage book planter? A great way to upcycle an old book, or sacrilegious vandalism of sacred texts?


When the words don’t come | five minute friday | purpose

when the words don't come

Five Minute Friday: free write for five minutes on a one-word prompt. No editing, no over-thinking, no analyzing grammar and style. Just writing. Today’s word: purpose.

Setting my timer and starting in 3…2…1…NOW.

It’s quiet around here lately. There are thoughts and feelings and things I want to say, but I sit down to suss it all out and silence. A blinking cursor, waiting for direction. The words don’t come.

Writing is my art. I’m a logophile. I love words and creating with them. I’ve known this from an early age. Even my first grade teacher wrote on my progress reports: she will be a writer one day.

This is my purpose. The written word submitted to the Lordship of Jesus in my life.

I’m struggling in it, though. Occasionally I get paid to write, but mostly it’s just for me. And sometimes, the words just don’t come. What does all that mean for my purpose, then? Am I only living out my purpose if I have an audience? Am I truly fulfilling my purpose if it’s not my full-time vocation? Am I failing when the words don’t come?

Purpose is such a loaded word. Like calling.

These are all the words I have tonight. They just won’t come.

Time’s up.